There are several threads going on in my life.
I am frustrated at my older son regarding the rather relaxed attitude he has over financial aid for his next school year, and with getting a job. I think he's seeing that I'm annoyed and is picking up the slack, but it might be too little too late.
For the past few months, I've been enjoying having some savings and being able to pay all of my bills on-time without a fuss, and I'd like to be able to continue doing that. But, if he doesn't start contributing to his college (he's 19, so this is not unreasonable), that will come to a grinding halt. I am left with doing like last year -- struggling to pay everything myself -- or telling him that, because he didn't do anything to help, he's skipping a semester. The latter is the "tough love" approach, but I know him well enough to know that it WILL backfire.
I haven't gone to any theatre auditions since January. I decided I would take a break, and I've stuck with that. I have some other threads at work, however. I am trying to form a "Staged Reading" group, an "Acting Workshop" so to speak. If Viviana agrees to put me under their banner (so that I can use their liability insurance to rent a venue), this will become a reality. I'm thinking that the first "staged reading" will be my play, "Leia". That way, we can try this out (measure interest, evaluate the venue, etc.), without paying the expense of royalty fees.
Jen and I are having fun together. She is spending this week with me, and I'm hoping that spending so much "familiar time" with me won't drive her nuts. We're still very much in the "we get together and do something special and big" mode, so this is almost another stage (where we don't necessarily have anything interesting planned).
So how will it backfire?? Him dropping out completely? I will be tough too... how is that your problem. If he can't understand that he needs to contribute maybe he is not ready for college.
ReplyDeleteThe rule can be simple. You stay in my home? You either go to school or you work. You work? You pay rent. You go to school, you need to contribute. Wont do either? Here is the door.
Think do you want him to live with you till he is 32 because that is the way you are headed. Lucky you.